What to expect when booking a session

Whether you are an experienced SM player or new to the game, I’ve written a guide to introduce my BDSM style, how I work and what to expect from a session with me. 

My BDSM style and how I play

For me, BDSM is about sensual exploration, psychological games, teasing and playfulness - toying with someone's fantasies, guiding them through intense emotions and sensations, making them beg for my touch. It's not about simple gratification or doing the most extreme thing.

I prefer playing with others who like to give up a degree of control and allow me the creative power to direct the scene. In general, I do not appreciate scripted scenes, topping from the bottom, or clients who come with a checklist of kinks - this isn’t a BDSM drive-through. Great scenes take time to build up tension and get into a flow.

How are sessions structured?

Before a BDSM session, we start with a negotiation. During this part, we go over your wishes for the session, relevant fantasies and turn-ons, activities which may be part of the session, your experience level and no-gos. For those who are looking to explore new things, I can provide suggestions based on your interests. Feel free to ask relevant questions during this time.

The scene itself is structured depending on the kind of play involved. We may begin with a ritual, a set of rules for you to obey, or a role-play intro that suits your fantasy.

After the scene, it's common practice in BDSM to provide aftercare, helping you to cool down and adjust back to the world before leaving. Aftercare could be drinking tea together, taking a warm shower by yourself or chatting about the session. Some prefer no aftercare - that's up to you.

How to prepare for a BDSM session?

Check in with yourself and your body. We can adjust the pace of the session or the activities involved based on your needs. In terms of hygiene, I expect my playthings to be in good condition, so please take care of yourself, shower and use mouthwash beforehand (or use the facilities once arriving in-Studio). Douching is recommended before anal play (and mandatory before heavy anal fisting sessions).

Mutual respect is important to me. Be considerate and mindful as you approach, and be sure to read carefully through my services and no-gos before writing or meeting me. For my part, I will do my best to create a base dynamic with you that feels respectful, communicative and non-judgemental. If you are not sure whether something is appropriate and within my boundaries or not, ask me politely.

I look forward to playing with you.

Xx,

Inara